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WARNING: This review is NOT for young readers. Please have discernment when reading with children present.
Pulling Back the Shades. Dannah Gresh & Dr. Juli Slattery. Moody Publishers, March 1, 2014. 171 pages.
There comes a time when you have to do something that takes you OUT of your comfort zone. Something that you feel prompted by the Holy Spirit to change. And when the catalyst for that change lands in your path…or your email box…you have to recognize that NOW is the time. The time to answer that call.
“Would I want to review this book?” I was asked. My heart pounded out of control. Would I? Would I want to say the very words I feel compelled to speak? Would I be willing to share the very thing that I feel shame about…the result of being sexually abused as a child? Would I be willing to bear my soul and be honest, to help someone else heal?
I haven’t been able to figure out how to address the topic. A topic SO taboo that as a believer I can’t find a way to share. And then this opportunity arrives. I pray. I plead. I beg. But I made a promise to let HIM lead me this year. I made an answer to say YES to the things that will make my life beautiful. So I said yes.
The book arrived. It took me a WEEK to open it. A week. I had about a week to read it. I couldn’t do it. It made me feel scared. Ashamed. Completely undone. It’s just a book for heaven’s sake!
You see, this book, this very book, addresses the thing that I have held so close to my heart. The thing that makes me hide. The one thing that I won’t even admit to myself…my husband…my psychiatrist…or my God. I so hate this thing about me that I’ll avoid facing it at any cost. Until the book is looking me in the face and I hear HIM calling me…READ. READ ME. Heal. Baby girl…there’s healing here if you’ll just let me heal you..
I weep. I run. I hide. The book is underneath my bed. I start reading. I can’t read more. I put it down. I’d much rather read and pretend my world is perfect. That there’s not this big huge ugly sin-stained scar in my soul…
I finally admit after 2 weeks of ignoring a deadline I have to finish this book. So I read. And I start to cry…and yell…and fight. Fight against this thing that eats me alive. And when I’m done I know I have to write the review. And NOT just a review. I have to admit WHY I’ve read the book and WHY I’m sharing the book.
I have to quit hiding from myself…from God. Right here. Right now. And let my healing…the healing I so desperately seek and long for. That piece of my innocence that was stolen from me when I was not capable of understanding…that I have to let it go…and let him heal that broken piece.
So I am sharing this review. And my story. I AM the woman Dannah and Juli speak to. I was introduced to pornography at the age of 12 in the form of a magazine by an aunt and uncle. The images haunted me. They enforced what had already been formed in my mind from the age of 7…I was a sinful, dirty child…and I couldn’t control the thing it made me feel. It moved on from there to reading erotica, quite easy to check out from a library ESPECIALLY if you can read faster than your mom.
I’ve struggled with it my whole life. Yes. Even after I was married. Even as I worked through the issues of abuse. Even as I prayed and cried and called myself a daughter of God. A mother. This ugliness has haunted me my entire life since I was 12 years old. It’s ugly. I hate it…and I just want it GONE.
The thing is that in one simple little book, these women have gently guided me to a place of safety where I can be real and honest. I KNOW I’m not alone. I KNOW that I can admit who I am and my Creator will heal me…and save me…and take that HORRIBLE thing that happened to me as a child completely away.
And I know now that I have to share this publically. Even if it costs me my friends…family…it will not cost me the love of my Savior.
They ended the book with a question. Are you ready to get in the game? Am I ready to join the battle? Not only for my soul…but the soul of my daughters…my granddaughters…my sisters? I am ready to stand up and say that this stuff damages people. It ruins lives. It strips you of your dignity and your self-worth. They talk about a call to revival. And they make a statement that I’m going to end with…one that is going to become my prayer. “Revival is not about holding our ground — it’s about reclaiming territory that has already been lost.”
So, THANK YOU Dannah & Juli. For facing a topic that is hard to touch. For taking the risk. For helping this girl be brave and stand up to reclaim my land.
Written for: The Christian women struggling with romance novels, fantasy, erotica or porn. The survivors of sexual abuse who struggle with images they cannot erase.
Why I like this Book: It’s honest. I trust both Dannah & Dr. Juli. It doesn’t say “You are such a heathen for this area in your life.” It takes the Word of God and shines a light on the hidden darkness of deception within your heart. It is gentle but to the point. The section on what TRUE intimacy is…amazing!
It’s not just written from a psychiatric or moralistic viewpoint. They use scriptures. They use the very words of my God to let me know what is right or wrong. They gently use the sword to slice away the evil from the good. This book is like no other book I’ve read. Simply. God-inspired and healing.
Do I Recommend: ABSOLUTELY. It is a must read for any women who finds herself struggling with this area. Do not rely on the psychiatric community to help you with this area. This is an area where the healing power of the ONE who heals is needed.
I have ONE copy to give away of this book. (I will be keeping mine to borrow out). I normally use the Rafflecopter form. But I don’t want to do that. If you’d like a chance to win the book, simply let me know below. I will pool the names and pull a winner. I will do this on April 25, 2014.
I feel very passionate about this book and topic. PLEASE If you relate to this book…my story…please do not stay hidden alone. I feel like I have been called to share who I am so that you may find the one who can make you whole again…bring you healing. Please, let me pray for you if I can. I would be honored to stand in the gap for you.
Much love to you all.
Spiritual women have legitimate desires that are seldom addressed-and books like Fifty Shades of Grey are designed to exploit! Yet, spirituality and sexuality were never meant to be mutually exclusive. Now, with solid biblical teaching and transparent stories, trusted authors Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery offer an unflinching look at the most personal questions women ask. Whether you are single or married, reading erotica or Jane Austen, Pulling Back the Shades will address your desire to be both sexual and spiritual.
About the Author(s)
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Dannah Gresh is a best-selling author of several faith-based books on the subject such as What Are You Waiting For, Get Lost, and And The Bride Wore White. She has long been at the forefront of a movement to encourage healthy sexual choices and is often called upon to use social science and medical research to defend a conservative position on relationships and gender in news media like USA Today, CNN.com, FoxNews.com, Chicago Tribune and Women’s Wear Daily. As a resident of the hometown of Penn State, Gresh coaches college students seeking to define their sexual and relationship theology. She was honored to deliver a TED Talk entitled “The Walk of Fame vs The Walk of Shame.” Learn more about her at dannahgresh.com.
Dr. Juli Slattery is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker and broadcast media professional. Her commitment to biblical principles, relatable style and quick wit have made her a highly sought after speaker to women’s groups. Juli served as the co-host of the Focus on the Family daily broadcast from 2010-2012. She then sensed the Lord calling her to leave her position at Focus to co-found Authentic Intimacy, a women’s media ministry focusing on intimacy in marriage & intimacy with Christ. Juli’s books include Finding the Hero In Your Husband, No More Headaches, Beyond the Masquerade and Guilt Free Motherhood. She and her husband Mike have been married for 19 years. They are raising their three boys in Colorado Springs where Juli can be found playing in the mountains and trying to manage her addiction to soy lattes.
I received a copy of this book for review purposes through the publisher. This fair and honest review contains my own opinions and do not reflect the views of the author, publisher or any other third-party. I have received no other compensation for this review. This is disclosed in accordance with FTC guidelines.