I am finding opportunities to share how we homeschool in the strangest places. Normally this brings anxiety, defense of my decisions; this did not happen. The conversation landed on unschooling. For the other homeschool mom and I, this isn’t a strange concept. For the mostly elder crowd in the room, it was, a shock of sorts.
A beautiful post by Heidi St. John was brought to mind. I shared her words. I found my heart opening to those around me. This led to an amazing evening of honesty and healing. What a blessing!
This morning I was reflecting on the conversation and my son. He has no interest in attending a traditional college. I struggle with accepting my son’s interest and letting go of my pre-conceived ideas of success. As Heidi spoke to my heart I found myself going back to the Word.
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.. Proverbs 22:6
Just what does that mean? Is this the formula for successful parenting?
In the Hebrew the phrase “train up” is Chanak (khaw-nak’). It means to train, dedicate, inaugurate. This same word is found three other times in the Old Testament (Deuteronomy 20:5, I Kings 8:63, and 2 Chronicles 7:5). In the other passages talk about dedicating the house of God.
Why would that same word be used to describe the task of raising children?
In I Corinthians 6:19-20 Paul wrote, “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body,”.
I view the Holy Spirit a little differently than most; it’s the manifestation of the relationship between God the Father and his Son. That relationship is now possible between man and God. Like we dwell in a house, God’s spirit dwells in the heart of my children. That is why I am to dedicate, to train up in HIS way; not my own.
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them – Genesis 1:27
If Adam was made in the image and likeness of God, doesn’t it make sense that my children are also? Doesn’t it mean that instead of conforming my children to MY image, I should be dedicating them to the image that God designed for them? And if I truly believe that God can talk to me, guide my path, why do I not feel that is true for my children?
Slowly, the path my son on is making sense. It may not be the path that his father and grandfather (a PhD) walked. It really is not the path that I have walked. It’s his own path, designed by his Creator.
Ultimately, I have to let him decide.
Just as I let go of his hand as a toddler so he could walk on his own two feet, I have to let go of his hands once again. In doing so, I am dedicating my child to the Creator. I am letting go, letting Him complete the work he started.
Just some thoughts in my heart this morning.