I like to imagine that the ugliness perpetrated in Steubenville, is limited to those who are “without”. Those who do not see the reason for morality, modesty or boundaries. Unfortunately, the “Body of Christ” is guilty of immorality; we just don’t talk about it. It’s the sin that is 9 times out of 10 hidden in Christian circles. And why? Let me share with you a verse from the Bible.
I Peter 4:7-8
7But the end of all things is at hand: be ye therefore sober, and watch unto prayer. 8And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. King James Version, Bible.cc
I’ve heard this scripture used to excuse a myriad of behaviors from benign to serious, including molestation of children. When these things happen, rumors fly, and the church works hard to contain them…keep them quiet. Ultimately, what happens is the victim is never made whole.
Because we are to “avoid the appearance of evil”, the need to not expose this sin is great. After all, how can Christians judge a world of sin, when they are guilty of sin?
Granted…that’s not what we are called to do. At all. But that idea has permeated churches across America and it’s left a path of damaged souls in it’s wake.
Until today. Today, I found a glimmer of hope. Someone not ashamed to say, “Look, this is wrong.”
Ann Voskamp has become a sister, that I have yet to meet…in person. Daily she encourages me and occasionally challenges me to examine myself. Grace flows from her fingers into my soul.
Today, she shared a letter. A letter to her son. To all of us. Who are tired. Tired of a world that looks at our precious girls as something to use and not cherish. And in one sentence, she let the secret out.
This happens in churches. In youth groups. By peers and by adults. By parents and by trusted pastors. In some way, the pressure to be quiet is greater in the church, because of the need to appear holy. Yet, Ann proclaims truth. “To stay silent is to let perpetrators perpetuate.”
As I read What Our Sons Need to Know About Manhood, my heart jumped. SOMEONE gets it!
You see, Jesus did not come to condemn us. He came to bring us healing, peace, and new life. It’s up to US to start walking the way he walked, talking the way he talked, acting the way he acted. It’s up to us to stop the lie from the beginning, that God created a woman to deceive; to cause a man to stumble.
Enough. The reality is that MALE and FEMALE are responsible for their OWN bodies, souls, hearts and minds. If a MAN sins, it’s BECAUSE HE SINNED. If a WOMAN sins, it’s BECAUSE SHE SINNED. No more blame. No more games. Let’s be honest with ourselves and one another.
I have more to say…but I am being summoned by the crew of hungry eaters in my house.
Once again…To Be Continued.